What is ‘self-help’? If we are looking for the simplest meaning then it is ‘to help oneself without depending on the aid of others’. The phrase seems very mundane and unimportant, but on the contrary it is a significant outlook on life in the modern world.
‘Self-help’ has many aspects to it. There are ‘self-help’ books on various fields in education and also psychological aid. These prompt us to work on our own. Under the wing of ‘self-help’ our self-confidence grows and matures. It teaches us to be independent and fend for ourselves, and essentially, to be responsible for our own progress. The inner ‘self-help’ to my mind is more important. It gives us the power to control our emotions and slowly achieve total control of our mind and being. This method of ‘self-help’ is something like the free-progress system in our school; the spirit is the same: to have the scope of maximum progress at our own speed towards our selected goals.
But if we carry this idea of ‘self-help’ too far I think the world would become a colder home. It is already growing lonelier, for everyone is busy running their own life, trying to catch their ever-receding aims and not achieving much. Yet they are always in a hurry, intent on the success of their lives, oblivious of the others. Gone are the days when the parents taught their children all the work and sat back proudly watching their success. Now the moment the hatchlings are big enough to fly, they are left on their own. The warmth of exchanging knowledge has nearly disappeared for no one has a minute to spare. Behind the idea of ‘self-help‘, the growing independence and neglect of other’s advice, is changing life itself.
With all its indispensable qualities ‘self-help’ is very necessary in today’s world. But don’t you think … a few moments by the evening fire, as the dark shadows creep in the corners of the room, an old grandma rocking in her favourite chair, her wrinkled face shining with nostalgia, recounting her long life’s various experiences, is … beautiful, and equally essential?